I Wish Someone Had Told Me
Practical
suggestions were few and far between when I started out. I was an
English teacher, with an AP who spent hours describing the difference
between an “aim” and an “instructional objective.” To this day, I
haven’t the slightest notion what she was talking about. She also spent
a good deal of time describing the trials and tribulations of her
cooking projects, and other utterly useless information.
Neither
she nor any teacher of education ever advised me on classroom
control. The standing platitude was “A good lesson plan is the best
way to control a class,” but I no longer believe that. I think a good
lesson plan is the best thing to have
after you control the class.
I
also think a good lesson plan need not be written at all, as long as
you know what you’re doing. If you don’t, neither the lesson plan nor
the aim will be much help.
The best trick, and it’s
not much of a trick at all, is frequent home contact. It’s true that
not all parents will be helpful, but I’ve found most of them to be.
When kids know reports of their classroom behavior will reach their
homes, they tend to save the acting out for your lazier colleagues—the
ones who find it too inconvenient to call. You are not being "mean" or
petty--you're doing your job, and probably helping the kid. If you
want to really make a point, make a dozen calls after the first day of
class. Or do it the day before a week-long vacation.
Now
you could certainly send that ill-mannered kid to the dean, to your
AP, to the guidance counselor, or any number of places. But when you do
that, you’re sending a clear message that you cannot deal with that
kid—he or she is just too much for you. You’ve already lost.
And what is that dean going to do anyway? Lecture the child? Call the home? Why not do it yourself?
You need to be positive when you call. Politely introduce yourself and say this:
“I’m
very concerned about _______________. ___________ is a very bright
kid. That’s why I’m shocked at these grades: 50, 14, 0, 12, and 43 (or
whatever). I’d really like __________ to pass the class, and I know
you would too.”
I’ve yet to encounter the parent who says no, my kids are stupid, and I don’t want them to pass.
“Also,
I’ve noticed that ___________ is a leader. For example, every time
___________ (describe objectionable behavior here) or says (quote exact
words here—always immediately write objectionable statements) many
other students want to do/say that too.”
"I'm also concerned because ________ was absent on (insert dates here) and late (insert dates and lengths here).
I certainly hope you will give _________ some good advice so ___________ can pass the class.”
If
the kid’s parents speak a foreign language you don’t know, find
someone else who also speaks it, and write down what you want that
person to tell the parent.
If you’re lucky enough to
have a phone in your room, next time you have a test, get on the phone
in front of your class and call the homes of the kids who aren’t
there. Express concern and ask where they are. If the kid is cutting,
it will be a while before that happens again. If the kid is sick,
thank the parent and wish for a speedy recovery.
The kids in your class will think twice about giving you a hard time.
Kids
test you all the time. It’s hard not to lose your temper, but it’s a
terrible loss for you if you do. When kids know you will call their
homes, they will be far less likely to disrupt your class. The minutes
you spend making calls are a very minor inconvenience compared to
having a disruptive class.
If you’re fortunate enough
to have a reasonable and supportive AP, God bless you. If not, like
many teachers, you’ll just have to learn to take care of yourself. If
you really like kids, if you really know your subject, and if you
really want to teach, you’ll get the hang of it.
But make those phone calls. The longer you do it, the more kids will know it, and the fewer calls you’ll have to make.
Your
AP, whether good, bad, or indifferent, will certainly appreciate
having fewer discipline problems from you. More importantly, you might
spend less time dealing with discipline problems, and more helping all
those kids in your room.
Originally posted June 5, 2005
See also:
Ms. Cornelius with everything they forgot (or more likely, never knew about) at ed. school. Here's something from Miss Malarkey. And whatever you do, don't forget Miss Eyre's excellent series on what no one will tell you about working for the DoE.